Friendship

What qualities make up a perfect friendship?

A perfect and absolute friendship holds a reciprocal desire forĀ each to have the best life they can possibly have. When the bestĀ course of action helps one and hurts the other, compromise mustĀ take place. This compromise should include clear communication.Ā Communication is difficult, if not impossible when stressfulĀ situations reduce the energy of one friend to listen to the otherĀ who needs to be heard.

Time constraints can place added stress toĀ the situation—no time to wait for the stress to be reduced so that communication can freely take place. Ā One sometimes must simply make a decision and use an appropriate compromise with the friend’s needs in mind, doing theĀ best that they can for them. If it turns out to be the wrongĀ decision, at least you can feel good about trying to do the rightĀ thing.

If the friend does not understand, one wonders if theĀ relationship was as reciprocal as one first believed. Yet, oneĀ should never assume the worst or take personally theĀ actions or nonactions that can simplyĀ be a continuation of the stress.Ā  Stressful conditions make it difficult to take the time to listen well.Ā 

The concept of friendship was discussed at length by Aristotle. Ā Various types of friendships were outlined. Ā The perfect andĀ absolute friendship was given the description, telophilia. Ā IĀ think about the word often. Ā I’m lucky enough to have some peopleĀ in my life who I feel have my best interest at heart and I knowĀ they feel that I also have theirs.

There have been people in my life who I thought of as very closeĀ friends, but I have learned that wishing doesn’t make it so orĀ keep it so. Ā Communication is a key element in making a goodĀ friendship work otherwise, actions may occur unwittingly withoutĀ understanding situations going on in each person’s life. Ā BothĀ individuals must be willing to do what is in the best interest ofĀ the other and to do so involves continuing to speak honestlyĀ with one another, or the relationship falls apart.

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